As a thank you to those who have generously shared with me along the way and as a sort of ”pay it forward” to anyone else in this process, I hope that what I’m sharing will be valuable and help you in some small way in your path of achieving your dream of having a baby.
Perhaps something I say will in some way help other fertility warriors along the way–those exploring or doing IVF, donor egg IVF, donor sperm IVF, donor embryos, surrogacy or any other fertility treatments abroad. And I welcome your comments or questions as we go along together in this journey.
One thing I want to say up front…I will try very hard to ensure that there are no judgments here. I truly believe that each person has their own path and you should feel comfortable exploring your options and then making your own informed decisions about your fertility choices based on what feels right to you for your family. I have realized after many years in infertility circles, the controversies abound and the passions run high – after all, most of us are in some phase of disrupting our hormones. So, while I may touch on “hot topics” or controversial topics (such as “how old is too old”, single mothers by choice, donor disclosure, pre-implantation genetic testing, gender selection, selective reduction, what to do with frozen embryos, etc.) my goal will be to present balanced information and let you, the reader, make your own decisions.
I have personally worked with many, many women (and often their husbands or partners) helping them plan adn facilitate their IVF treatments abroad. In addition, I have recently started a big research project about “fertility tourism” – exploring the treatments, costs, success rates and other details about ART (assisted reproductive technology) across the globe. Along the way, with much time, money & research invested, I’ve learned (and continue to learn) more about this subject than I ever would have imagined when I started this journey planning my own treatments.
About My Journey: Our story actually started several years ago. My husband and I were married a bit later in life and well, life just seemed to keep getting in the way of us completing our family with a child. Several IUI and IVF treatments in the United States (and about 50 thousand dollars) later, we were at square one with no child. We had explored other fertility clinic options in the US – but at around $20,000 to $40,000 per try (with no guarantee of success) those just weren’t odds that seemed worth betting on.
So, late one night, I was online reading and searching and came across the idea of IVF abroad…in Europe. Take one vacation, add some medicine (IVF) and a little magic or divine intervention, and voila – if you’re fortunate, you come home with the souvenior of a lifetime….a much desired baby about nine months later.
Being a diligent consumer, I did some research and spoke to other ladies who had gone before me. They were all thrilled with the service that they received and talked about being treated with dignity and respect. Even more, they all talked about what a wonderful time they had on their IVF “vacation”. They seemed to all be impressed with the clinic and doctors – whose success rates are equivalent to most average clinics here in the US – but at a fraction of the cost. And when I say “fraction”, I mean along the lines of about 1/4 to 1/3 the cost of doing it here in the United States.
And so began our journey across the world in a quest for the baby that we are meant to have.